The art of letting go of a situation that doesn’t make you happy, or isn’t helping you become successful is a beautiful, yet difficult thing. Usually something which we have to let go of for our own benefit is hard; this situation, routine or person that you have to let go of may have been installed in your life for a long time, so it only seems natural and comfortable to remain where you are.
Whilst going through the process of essentially deciding whether or not to let go, personal judgement can become cloudy. Your mind is so habituated to see the pros of the situation, which can lead to you completely disregarding the factors that make you want to let go in the first place. Through seeing the positives, it’s only natural to want to carry on with whatever this situation may be.
I believe that if you are in this situation, self validation is crucial; By loving and respecting your own mental, physical and spiritual well being, your view can become kind of like that of a third person party. No matter how determined you are to see the positives in this, your mind will force you to see it for what it really is. No matter how difficult this may be, your instincts are always correct. If you feel as though leaving the situation is what you want, and need in order to feel safe, secure and happy then it is vital to do so.
Personally, I believe accumulating all the positives which can come out of this choice can allow you to see the silver lining it what may seem like a very confusing and regretful situation. By allowing myself to let go of something which wasn’t good for me, it was upsetting at first; I always had “what if’s” in the back of my mind. However I soon came to realise that if these “what if’s” were legitimate, they would have happened by now. This is when you really start to realise the decision to let go and put yourself first was the best. If something or somebody is not bringing positivity and optimism into your life, as hard as it may seem, the best thing to do is to let go. This isn’t selfish, it’s simply giving yourself the love and security needed.